Wanted: A Solid Relationship

In the future, when I find someone I want to marry, I think I would ideally like our relationship to be a mix of the self-sacrificing and self-fulfilling.  I want a husband whom I can communicate with and share the experiences that frustrate me or make me happy.  Common values are also very important because I think that there is a lot of room for conflict if you go into a relationship with opposite viewpoints.  For example, if one partner is against in-vitro fertilization and the other is not, but the couple ends up not being able to get pregnant, the infertility could cause a breach in the relationship that may be very difficult to heal.  Additionally, I want a husband who will introduce me to new experiences and make me more daring and excepting of spontaneity.  Currently, I think I am uptight.  Although I am trying to change that, I would like a partner who would help me relax more.  Hopefully, as the New York Times article states, then I would eventually acquire those traits and become less uptight.


I think my intentions are a mix of Catholic teaching and modern society.  I think for me, that is a healthy balance because it is both idealistic and realistic.